I have been thinking a lot about forgiveness lately. Whether it be a friend, family or even someone you don't know that well, it can be one of the hardest things to do. Why something so important, is so hard for me to do, I will never understand. I know that anger is a ball (so to speak) of wasted energy that has no place to go, but to harbor inside of oneself. Why grudges? What's the point? It's much easier to move past things, but why, knowing how much easier it will be, is it so hard to get to that point?
Wikipedia defines Forgiveness as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, and/or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. Studies show that people who forgive are happier and healthier than those who hold resentments. The first study to look at how forgiveness improves physical health discovered that when people think about forgiving an offender it leads to improved functioning in their cardiovascular and nervous systems. Another study found the more forgiving people were, the less they suffered from a wide range of illnesses. The less forgiving people reported a greater number of health problems.
Doesn't that first part sound harsh? I find it does. I know it's unhealthy and I know it just causes unhappiness and who wants to be either? This is one of those things I have been struggling with lately and know in my heart I can eventually get past. Why does it take so long? Why can't I just be like Emeril "BAM!" and it all be forgotten!
I find when I get things out in the open, become vulnerable, I find obstacles easier to conquer. It's a marker in my life that I can now move past because all my feelings are out and in the open. I know that I'm not the only one who feels these same thoughts and has the same struggles. It's comforting to know I'm not alone and we all deal with the same everyday things in life. I love you readers!! Thanks for listening to me, even if I don't make sense or my thoughts can be jumbled.
Thank you for listening (reading).